Give Them Something to Imitate


You must be  credible   – Show your Grand babies by example how to be kind, how to be strong, how to be loving, smart Anything just show them and they will imitate.And in fact they most likely will be more loving, smarter, kinder then we could ever imagine for ourselves.

You are not trying to show them perfection, You are showing them how to strive to be a better you every day. They will see you work towards the goal and they will follow your lead

You have to explain why you behave they way you do. What in your life caused you to be who you are. And what in their lives will make them who they will become

You must smile every day. Show your grandchild joy and they will naturally gravitate to joy .

You need to teach your grandchild how important making the right decision is in their lives and in yours. Tell them ways a right decision  and a wrong decision changed your life  

You need to set an example of daily  spiritual/religious practices. Teach them to pray, meditate, yoga, praise . All the ways you express your spirituality


My Grandmothers are Incredibly Strong and Admirable Women

Submitted by Hannah Gonzales (age 16 )

Nowhere in the world is as safe as grandma’s house. When you’re a kid, it’s the most comfortable place you can think of. The memories of being young and being at my grandma’s house stick out to me in the form of snapshots, little bits and pieces of sensations, like the always-present-yet-faint scent of strong perfume, or the way the light shines through the sitting room window on lazy afternoons. I remember how going to grandma’s house always meant that I was in for a treat, and whether it be a glass of homemade orange juice or a painting lesson, it never failed to excite me. I’m reminded of exactly how it felt to be there when I was younger and of all of the adventures I went on with grandma. Everything seemed so much bigger then; a trip to the store or to the beach seemed as if it was the trip of a lifetime. And yet, something so small, so mundane, lingers among my fondest memories.
My Grandma Toni, who was my dad’s mom and passed away in 2008, was, and remains to be, one of my favorite people that I’ve ever had the privilege to meet and get to know. She had quite the eccentric personality, and almost everything she did or said was hilarious. Her sense of humor was always shining, and there was very little that she would take seriously. She always took my side no matter what, and whether it be standing up to the preschool bully, or persuading my dad into getting me some new toy, she never failed at making sure that someone got what they deserved. Toni managed to make everything fun – we literally fed seagulls in the Big Lot’s parking lot every day, and it was actually made enjoyable. I’ll never forget all of her antics and all of her stories and everything that she’s taught me. I look up to her for her strength and for all that she’d gone through. I know that she didn’t just touch my life, but the lives of many others as well, and I will always remember her for the inspiration that she is.
My Grandma Fifi has always been a huge influence on my life, and she has taught me more over the years than I can ever put into words. Ever since I was a little girl, she has always been there for me, and she’s served so many roles in my upbringing; as my guide, my teacher, and my best friend. There are so many outstanding traits, and yet what I really admire is Fifi’s creativity and talent. She was the first person to really teach me how to draw and paint, and I cannot thank her enough for all of the time she’s spent with me and for all of what I’ve learned from her. Her artistic talents and visions expanded my own creative mind, and her motivation is my inspiration. Fifi’s strength and her undying love are radiant and encouraging, and I am so grateful for all of the memories that we have shared.

Both of my grandmothers are incredibly strong and admirable women, and I love them more than I can put into words.


Hannah’s Grandma Toni

The Big Question ?


Why did I start this Blog? I have asked myself this a few times in the last weeks. I have been asked by a few people too. I can’t blame the curious, that is how I found myself Blogging in the first place . My initial answer was to learn How to be a Grandma.  I have always been curious and a seeker of knowledge, not your school learned knowledge but knowledge of people and life. How and why people do what they do.  I look forward to being a Grandma one day and thought I need to be prepared. Granted none of my boys are married and no babies on the horizon for now. But I believe in being prepared.  I wanted learn from other Grandmas, to study so I can take on the role with knowledge and skills.  A  Masters in Grandma. I was expecting to have all of you instruct  me  on How to be a Grandma. You know learn when to say no, how much to discipline,  teach them some skills and not step on Mom and Dad’s toes and all that being a Grandma entails. What I was not expecting was to feel so much love and passion from all types of people. Men, Women and Children love their Grandmas.And Grandma’s can ‘t say enough about the special type of love a Grandchild brings .Just to hear the word Grandma evokes so much emotion from everyone I ask, How to be a Grandma. I have  changed my mind from seeking what I need to learn  and instead looking forward to the overwhelming joy being a Grandma instills in a person. No matter How you are a Grandma. The bonds between Grandmas and children have the ability to transform both children and adults. The stories and letters I have begun to collect have touched me deeply and hopefully a few of you have felt this too. So to answer the big question why did I start this Blog? It was to learn, and now why I will continue this Blog will be to feel. To feel all the love that being a Grandma evokes for me and all of you. Keep your stories and letters coming and go out and learn something today, just maybe you will be surprised at what you feel.


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